The Ladies v The Child Support Agency

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Don't get us wrong, us ladies here at the agency love the child support agency.

A great organisation who bring the non paying parents to justice.

The problem with them comes when you've got a hard work non paying parent who's playing the system.

We had a case recently. The father in this case was the one not paying for the child. He'd not contributed one penny to his school age daughter. The mother had been left to bring up the child on her own with no help. Something we just find unacceptable under any circumstance.

The father said he wasn't working, and he's been self employed for over 15 years.

He said he hadn't worked in 18 months, which was a lie because we'd caught him red handed and taken photographic evidence of that. We'd also given witness statements.

The father still pleeded poverty and he wasn't working.

Just a couple of facts of when a parent goes under investigation, here is what the CSA cannot do:

1. they cannot follow anyone

2. they cannot wait outside anyones house

3. they cannot visit a place where a person is believed to be working

4. they cannot do internet investigations

Pretty much the only thing they can do is look at electoral rolls and utility bills. That's wonderful, but that's far too many loopholes to slip under, and our target was well and truly doing it.

Our target was selling products on the internet, and he'd been photographed working.

The CSA could not do anymore to check this out.

Ok, so we did it all for them at a cost to the mother who's already out of pocket.

We got correspondence from the father admitting his work, internet evidence, photographic evidence, a place of work, witness statements and video evidence.

It wasn't cheap for the mother, imagine if it was a parent who couldn't afford this work?! That's another lying non resident parent escaping paying for their child.

Sad state of affairs when you have to do your own work to get anywhere!

'MY AFFAIR MADE OUR MARRIAGE STRONGER'...

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Mr ex ‘Buffy the vampire slayer’ and now ‘Angel’ star David Boreanaz, has spoken out about his affair. 

Back in 2010 David had an affair with Rachel Uchitel (remember, the woman behind the Tiger Woods incident?). 

He now tells the world it’s made his marriage stronger. Whilst difficult for most to believe, it’s not totally un common. 

David states the weeks after the discovery of his affair were a ‘bonding’ experience for himself and his wife. Tragedy is bringing you together, and without any doubt it’s a pretty horrific time. Although, for some couples it’s possibly one of the first times in a long time they’ve been open and honest with each other. On a bizarre level, it does make some sense. 

According to the man himself, marriages have ‘extreme happiness’ and ‘extreme rocky patches’. He’s not wrong, despite the flippant use of language in such strong circumstances. 

"In a sacred ground like marriage, you find yourself out of it at certain times for reasons unknown that can be destructive. There could be a demon that kind of comes out and overtakes you."

All power to his wife we say. Not everyone can overcome such trauma. If you can, excellent. If you can’t, it’s no reflection on you being weaker than the next person in your shoes. Just different personalities handling a life altering situation in a very different way. Some people wear nothing but flats, the next person wears nothing but glittery stilettos! (That’s us!)

Can you get over infidelity?

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‘Lady Archer’ has said, ‘there’s far worse things in life than infidelity’. 

LDA founder Rebecca Jane was asked to take part in a radio debate this morning on the topic, here is the basic views.

‘Yes you can entirely get over infidelity, and there’s lots of things in life that are far worse. Physical violence and mental cruelty being just two.

Relate says 2 out of 3 couples stay together after infidelity and our company 100% agrees. 

Clients use our services to find out the truth. Unfortunately when couples are in the beginning stages of uncovering an affair, they don’t just come clean. They dance around the truth, often telling a small portion to make the other party feel they are getting a full story.

It’s generally at this point we are contacted. To move forward with life, most people need the full facts. Considering their partner isn’t forthcoming with them, we have to get involved.

It’s all down to personal circumstances and the type of person you are, if you feel you can get over a person being unfaithful. Most people will never know the answer to the question, until they are in that situation. 

There’s no rule book, and no one is right or wrong. 

Whatever you feel, the best thing is to go with your gut instinct. Do whatever will make you feel better! The only person looking after you, is yourself, no one else is in charge of your happiness. 

Humans are creatures of habit and comfort. Do you honestly want to leave a relationship that’s been a working progress for years, has children or many other circumstances? When it comes to the crunch, chances are the answer is no. With the right help and commitment from both parties, a future together is still possible. 

Do what makes YOU happy...’

P.S - Serial infidelity is a wholllleeee different topic!