SIGNS OF INFIDELITY

I get asked all the time about 'How Do You Spot An Unfaithful Partner'.... well, here are the basics from our expert book!....1. white lies - Really silly small things. Like telling you they can't attend a certain event because there due at such a place. Then you find out they were lying. Forgetting they had to work late/early. The motorway was busy, but you check online and it was clear. Lying about their phone bill. If they feel they have to lie over such small things, how are they handling the big things?!

2. Looking good - a new interest in taking care of appearance, but your sex life suffers....or significantly increases! Sounds bizarre but it's very true! She starts wearing new underwear, having her hair done regularly, nails etc - all of which are a change in her usual behaviour. Same situation goes for him.... and then your sex life stops. Or on the other hand it hugely increases. Sometimes if you're partners having an affair to have a break from reality, they come home remarkably refreshed.

3. Paranoia - As in their own paranoia about you. People being unfaithful often detract the limelight from themselves and try focusing it on you. How many times do you watch Jeremy Kyle and someone wants a lie detector on their partner, but the cheater is the one throwing the insults and accusations?!

4. Phones and Emails - would they prefer to eat their mobile phone rather than let you near it? Do they text 10000 times a day? Or are glued to their email? Unless they're the CEO of one MAJOR national company, it's unlikely they need to be on the phone that much....and if they do, they would probably have an assistant!

5. Something too good to be true, generally is.

6. If it doesn't add up, it proably doesn't

7. Gut Instinct - If it's telling you something, flaming listen!

A HALLOWEEN ADULTERER CAUGHT IN THE ACT...

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We do a lot of work with cheating partners...


We're often asked if we've caught people in the act!? Yes would be the answer, but not lots!


We try to never tell clients what we're up to at specific times. If they know, they can blow our cover and we can be (and have been) in danger! 


One time though, our client was particularly nervous, to the point of a breakdown. When I get involved with clients and their stories, I take them personal. I felt nervous for her, and wanted in every which way to help her. The client made it very clear, if I didn't guide her through every step of the investigation she would be a nervous wreck. So on this one occasion, we kept her up to date.


It was Halloween, we'd been following the suspect all night. He'd been to a fancy dress party, dressed as beetle juice! We knew where he was going, so just in case, WE were also dressed up! You HAVE to be prepared for all situations....A corpse bride and a fairy we're now surveying the suspect...sometimes I do wonder if we're barking! 


His wife, our client, was 200 miles away. He decided to carry the party back on at their marital home... 


The home, because it was owned by our client had equipment installed. We knew everything that was going on in the home.


Husband had gone upstairs with a witch, and I swear to you, no pun is intended!... we were literally listening to the noises they were making in the bedroom (again, moral questions time!!!!!!).


The client was told, he is being unfaithful, right now. Client gave her orders, and because it was her house, we were told to get in there and break it up!


So, we did just that. Fairy and corpse bride running up the stairs, with husbands friends behind - 'yoda, superman, a storm trooper and spiderman!'....


Everyone was very baffled, he was furious, not to mention embarrassed when we witnessed a full frontal display... but the body cameras we had on certainly helped the wife in her divorce settlement. 


We helped her get after care with a local councillor and she assures us she lived happily ever after!

'MY AFFAIR MADE OUR MARRIAGE STRONGER'...

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Mr ex ‘Buffy the vampire slayer’ and now ‘Angel’ star David Boreanaz, has spoken out about his affair. 

Back in 2010 David had an affair with Rachel Uchitel (remember, the woman behind the Tiger Woods incident?). 

He now tells the world it’s made his marriage stronger. Whilst difficult for most to believe, it’s not totally un common. 

David states the weeks after the discovery of his affair were a ‘bonding’ experience for himself and his wife. Tragedy is bringing you together, and without any doubt it’s a pretty horrific time. Although, for some couples it’s possibly one of the first times in a long time they’ve been open and honest with each other. On a bizarre level, it does make some sense. 

According to the man himself, marriages have ‘extreme happiness’ and ‘extreme rocky patches’. He’s not wrong, despite the flippant use of language in such strong circumstances. 

"In a sacred ground like marriage, you find yourself out of it at certain times for reasons unknown that can be destructive. There could be a demon that kind of comes out and overtakes you."

All power to his wife we say. Not everyone can overcome such trauma. If you can, excellent. If you can’t, it’s no reflection on you being weaker than the next person in your shoes. Just different personalities handling a life altering situation in a very different way. Some people wear nothing but flats, the next person wears nothing but glittery stilettos! (That’s us!)

Can you get over infidelity?

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‘Lady Archer’ has said, ‘there’s far worse things in life than infidelity’. 

LDA founder Rebecca Jane was asked to take part in a radio debate this morning on the topic, here is the basic views.

‘Yes you can entirely get over infidelity, and there’s lots of things in life that are far worse. Physical violence and mental cruelty being just two.

Relate says 2 out of 3 couples stay together after infidelity and our company 100% agrees. 

Clients use our services to find out the truth. Unfortunately when couples are in the beginning stages of uncovering an affair, they don’t just come clean. They dance around the truth, often telling a small portion to make the other party feel they are getting a full story.

It’s generally at this point we are contacted. To move forward with life, most people need the full facts. Considering their partner isn’t forthcoming with them, we have to get involved.

It’s all down to personal circumstances and the type of person you are, if you feel you can get over a person being unfaithful. Most people will never know the answer to the question, until they are in that situation. 

There’s no rule book, and no one is right or wrong. 

Whatever you feel, the best thing is to go with your gut instinct. Do whatever will make you feel better! The only person looking after you, is yourself, no one else is in charge of your happiness. 

Humans are creatures of habit and comfort. Do you honestly want to leave a relationship that’s been a working progress for years, has children or many other circumstances? When it comes to the crunch, chances are the answer is no. With the right help and commitment from both parties, a future together is still possible. 

Do what makes YOU happy...’

P.S - Serial infidelity is a wholllleeee different topic!